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The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Sensual Massage

Set Up Essentials:
• A comfortable table or bed that will allow the massager access to the full body of their partner, without having to lean over.
• A sheet which is large enough to wrap around the person being massaged
• Pillows for under his or her head and knees.
• A small table with oils, lubricants, safer sex supplies such as latex gloves and condoms.  Also good to have are: a towel or tissues, a bowl of warm water to warm oils, lubricants and hands before touching skin.

Getting Started:
• Start with a light touch (but not too light, you don ‘t want to tickle)
• Run your warmed hands all over your partner’s skin.
• Gradually begin to narrow your focus to specific muscle groups, massaging deeper with each stroke.
• Keep lines of communication open, ask about what feels good and pay close attention to body language
• Keep contact with your partner’s body with at least one hand at all times.

Moving On to Genital Massage:
• Gently cup your partner’s genitals and make eye contact.  You are, at this point, seeking permission to continue.
• Once permission is granted, begin slowly and gradually increase pace and intensity.
• Be sure to continue to keep lines of communication open.  This can be a great time for some hot talk, or just to explore what really turns your partner on.
• Bring your partner to the brink of orgasm and then back off.  The goal is to prolong this period of intense stimulation and you don’t want to end things too quickly.

Some Basic Strokes For Men:
• The Twist:  Using lots of lubricant, start by grasping the tip of the penis in your hand and stroking downwards toward the balls.  As you stroke down, twist your wrist so that your hand spirals down his cock.   Variation: As you reach the bottom with one hand, begin immediately back at the top with the other.
• The Teaser Stroke: massage slowly and gently for a couple minutes and then stroke once up and down rapidly.  Return to gentle massage for a couple minutes then use two rapid strokes.  Continue in this pattern, adding rapid strokes as you progress.
• Remember that the testes are also highly sensitive.  Cupping, or gentle massage as you stroke the penis can intensify any stroke you might choose.

Some Basic Strokes For Women:
• V stroke: Position your index finger on one side of the clitoris and your middle finger on the other.  Rub up and down the sides of the clitoris, Begin gently.
• The G-spot stimulator:  Palm facing up, with your thumb on top, insert your first two fingers into her vagina.  Use a beckoning motion to stimulate her g-spot.  Variation:  If she is into more intensity, you can lay your thumb along her clitoris and stimulate that at the same time.
• Remember that the clitoris is highly sensitive.  Too much stimulation too soon can have a negative effect on your stimulation goals.  Go slow and take your time.

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There’s a lot more to giving a sensual massage than a hand job.  For those of you just starting out, here are some basic tips and techniques:

• Take the time to set up properly - Turn off the phone, dim the lights and create a warm, relaxing atmosphere.  Find a table or bed on which your partner can lie comfortably and place a sheet over it.  Provide pillows for under his or her head and knees.  Set up all the equipment you will need (oils and lubricants, condoms or latex gloves, etc) on a small separate table within easy reach.  Warm your hands and your oils with warm water before applying them to bare skin.

• Maintain constant contact – If you need to remove a hand from your partner’s body at any time, replace it with the other hand.  Maintaining constant contact keeps the mind and body stimulated.

• Whatever you do to one side, do to the other – Try your best to maintain symmetry in the massage.  Balance is a key factor in the building and manipulation of the energy you are trying to create.

• Communicate – This is particularly important before embarking on the genital portion of the massage.  Be sure that your partner is comfortable with each and every stage of the massage and encourage them to let you know if you are being too firm or too gentle.

• Keep it light and fun – Remind your partner that you are in this for your enjoyment as well, take the time to let them know how you appreciate their  body.  Express joy at touching them.  Talking dirty can also add another dimension to the experience.

Remember that although many folks enjoy ending a sensual massage with an orgasm, the massage is a process and not a product.  Orgasms are always better when they build slowly and Erotic and Sensual Massage is an excellent way to prolong and enhance an orgasm.
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They say a picture is worth a thousand words.  This is no truer than in instruction. Providing instructional diagrams is a long-standing tradition in almost any setting. 

Many thousands of articles have been written that describe to men and women the best techniques involved in good sensual massage, but the ones that will really stand out from the crowd will help drive the point home with step-by-step photography or illustration.

Precisely labeled diagrams can most easily help us locate each sensual inch of our partners’ physiology.  Pictures can help us understand positioning, angle and technique and they can also help us recognize potential issues and prevent mishaps due to misunderstandings.

If you’ve ever wondered, based on words alone, if you were correctly practicing a skill, or felt silly because you were unsure of your technique, then you will understand how each little bit of information helps us gain the confidence and skill to succeed. 

As in no other arena, confidence is one of the primary factors in excellent sensual massage.  The ability to really hone in on each little cluster of nerve endings in turn, to take into your full responsibility the task of bringing your partner to greater and greater levels of pleasure; these things all require an easy competence that is only enhanced by precise physiological awareness and knowledge.

The ability to satisfy our partners sexually is one of the most downplayed and yet highly important skills we will learn.  With a healthy, satisfying sex life, people live longer, experience less stress and are more able to form healthy, satisfying relationships.  For these reasons alone, it is vitally important that we use each resource available to us to improve upon our sexual prowess.

Pictures do help, and they’re fun to look at, too.

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Once you’ve set the mood and relaxed your partner, you’re ready to begin massaging their genitals.  At this stage, communication and attentiveness are particularly important.  Begin by gently cupping their genitals and be sure to make eye contact.  Wait for permission to continue.

Massaging the Lingam (male sex organs).

Tantra adherents practice a “no-ejaculation” policy, believing that the energies released during orgasm are best put to other uses.  For the purposes of couple massage, however, orgasm is often considered an important element to a successful massage.

An intense orgasm may leave a male partner too exhausted to continue, so in opposite sex couples, it’s helpful to have the woman receive her massage first, or at a separate occasion.

The Kama Sutra teaches us to continuously bring our male partners to a point just before orgasm and then switch the stroke.  Prolonging the orgasmic process can help develop multi-orgasmic ability and also lead to a finishing orgasm like none other.  Many couples find that they can pick two or three favourite strokes and by changing them back and forth, can maintain arousal and prolong ejaculation to a point of ecstacy.

Generally, men prefer a firm, consistent stroke.  A sliding stroke which caresses the penis from tip to base and back up again is best combined with some gentle massage of his testes.  Or try using both hands to alternate stroking in only one direction.

Teaser strokes involving some gentle play interspersed with an increasing number of firm up and down strokes can draw out an unbelievable orgasm.

Regardless of the strokes you and your partner settle on, the use of plenty of lubricant and some sexy talk will be sure to enhance the experience.

Massaging the Yoni (female sex organs)

Almost all women are capable of multiple orgasms.  This is fortunate for Tantric massage as it means that withholding orgasm will not be necessary.  It is quite possible to maintain a high level of arousal through several peaks before your partner is too exhausted to continue.

Women’s arousal is far more complex than men’s, relying much on her mood and comfort levels.  For this reason, communication and attention to detail is of utmost importance.

Once your partner is sufficiently relaxed, and you have permission to continue with the genital portion of the massage, begin slowly.  A woman’s sex organs are very sensitive and require a significant “warming up” period before they are prepared for intense stimulation.

There are two kinds of orgasms a woman can achieve.  The clitoral orgasm is the result (unsurprisingly) of clitoral stimulation.  Many women find a circular motion around their clitoris very effective for this.  Using the clitoral hood as the point of contact is the best way to gently bring a woman to a clitoral orgasm.  Often the parts of the clitoris that can be uncovered are far too sensitive to direct contact for stimulation to be pleasant. 

Many women prefer to have their vaginas full while achieving orgasm, and a couple fingers or an appropriate dildo can help with this.  Make sure that your partner is aroused before inserting anything into her vagina, as the alternative is quite unpleasant.

The second kind of female orgasm is a g-spot orgasm.  The g-spot is located on the front wall of the vagina, near the root of the clitoris.  If you can find it, it is an intense and expedient way to bring forth multiple orgasms.

Many women experience difficulty cumming because they feel self-conscious.  Remember to keep communication open and reassure your partner that you are enjoying the process.  Keep the pressure off and you will be rewarded.

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As with all things worth doing, sensual massage takes attention, care and practice to perfect.  The art itself is a journey towards greater and greater destinations.

A simple relaxation rub, or tension busting deep muscle massage does not awaken the sexual centres in quite the way an attentive, full body, erotically charged massage can. 

Sensual, or Tantric massage is an art dating back thousands of years.  The techniques and goals have changed and evolved over the millennia and each practitioner must make the practice their own, but the basics of this ancient art remain constant.

Your initial goal is to encourage a relaxed and open state of mind.  Eliminate stressful input, by dimming lights, lighting candles and, if you like, playing some soft music.

Encourage your lover to turn their energies and attentions inward, to their physicality and their essential sexual being.  As you touch each part of their body, concentrate deeply on the sensations you bring, on the goal you work towards.

Keep your hands and oils warm.  A sudden shock or surprise can undo all the work you have done before.  Maintaining contact with their body at all times, pay particular attention to the imaginary line from the top of their head to their genitals.

You may wish also to pay attention to their fingertips, the soles of their feet and other areas densely populated with nerve endings.  Sensual massage is an essentially empathic art, and I encourage you to go with your instincts.

Remember always that this is something you do for your partner, and do everything in your power to keep within their boundaries of comfort and pleasure.  You will be putting a great deal of energy into this experience and it is disappointing when a misstep, or a boundary crossed forces a restart or abortion of the procedure.

Pay particular attention to the body language they exhibit as you approach and interact with your partners sex centres.  They are now fully open to you and this is your chance to blow them away.  Continue to go slow and take your time.  I promise you, the power of a drawn out, fully sensual orgasm is an experience well worth the wait.

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You’ve done your research, read some books, perhaps even viewed instructional videos on the topic.  Everyone is talking about sensual massage, the depth of the connection it enables and of course, the mind shattering orgasms it helps produce.

You’re ready to embark on some more practical experience, but where to start?

It helps to have a plan before you start massaging your partner.  Erotic massage can end in orgasm there on the table or it can be just a warm-up for things to come.  In either case, it bears noting that while most women can have orgasm after orgasm (and some are more likely to achieve vaginal orgasm if they have already come once or twice manually) men will generally need a break after.  For this reason, it’s a good idea, if exchanging favours, for the woman to go first, or to stop before ejaculation is achieved.

Setting the mood is also an imperative.  After all, the reason it’s called sensual massage is that it incorporates all the senses into one incredible sexual act.  The room should be warm enough for each partner to comfortably undress.  It should be free from distractions and have a pleasant, arousing odour. 

Many people dim the lights, depending instead on candles for light.  A stick of incense or scented candles can add a rich dimension to the overall sensory experience.

Lay your partner over a soft sheet and encourage them to take deep breaths.  Breathe deeply yourself, aware of the exchange of oxygen and the flexing of your muscles as you do so.

Begin slowly and gently, working your way down your partner’s body.  Do not rush.  This experience is meant to eroticize not just your partners genitals but to awaken their entire body to it’s sexual potential.

Pay particular attention to their body language and communication, particularly as you approach their genital area.  Different partners have different preferences when it comes to manual stimulation and even the most silent of lovers will betray their desires with their bodies.

When the massage is done, wrap your partner in the sheet, creating a sense of comfort and security.  Allow five to ten minutes for your partner to arise.  Their body will be extremely relaxed and returning to an upright position can be overwhelming at first.

When it’s your turn, communicate with your partner as you would have them communicate with you.  Take note of the sensations they provide and provide them with gentle guidance towards what works for you. 

A fully tantric experience takes time and practice, so keep working on it.  In time, you and your lover will take one another to greater and greater heights.

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There’s a lot more to giving a sensual massage that just stroking skin.  For those of you just starting out, here are some basic tips and techniques:

• Begin with light strokes and move slowly to deeper tissue massage.  The initial strokes will awaken the nerve endings and alert the body.  As you move deeper, the muscles will gradually relax into your ministrations.

• Begin at the top or centre of a muscle group and work your way outwards.

• The ends of extremities are full of nerve endings, so spend a little extra time on the palms of your partners’ hands and the bottoms of their feet.

• Most people carry a lot of tension in their neck and shoulders.  Spending some extra time gently coaxing the tension out with gentle, focused massage will almost certainly open your partner up to a more intense experience later.

• Pay attention to your partner’s body language and avoid anything that causes the muscles to tighten.  A sudden tensing can be a sign that you are being too gentle (tickling) or too rough (hurting) so keep the lines of communication open.

• Always massage muscles and soft tissue only.  Do not rub or press on bones.

• Always maintain contact.  Keeping one hand in contact with your partner’s body at all times will provide his or her senses with a stable continuity that will enhance the experience of being massaged.

• Don’t be afraid to tease and draw out your partner’s orgasm.  Tantric practice focuses on prolonging the moment of orgasm, with mind-blowing results.

After the massage is done, wrap your partner in a sheet so he or she can stay warm and comfortable.  Your partner should not rush to get up, but instead should take some time to regain normal breathing and heart rate.  Holding or kissing your partner during this time can help maintain the spirit of the exercise, if you are waiting for your turn.

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Though Tantric practices predate Vedic Hinduism by some generations, a newer, ever more erotically oriented Tantra has arisen through recent scholarship.

Tantra is based on the concept that along our bodily centres, there lay spiritual hotspots or chakras.  By focusing our energy on these chakras, paying them special mind during the act of sex, we can learn to extend and amplify our sexual bliss.

From this idea is born the concept of full-body sensual and erotic massage, a way to connect with our lovers on a plane higher and more intense.  In short: to satisfy more of our lover.

Since Tantra is based on the idea that our entire body has the capability to be erogenous, touch and massage is a vital part of the tantric sexual practice.

Warm the room, the oils you are going to use and your hands before beginning.  Your goal is to create within your partner an transcendent sexual experience and this won’t work if their body is shocked by sudden sensation.

Begin with a light massage, keeping contact with your partner at all times.  Of particular interest should be the middle of her body, where lie her chakras or spiritual centres.  Massage the top of the head, forehead, throat (be gentle!), breasts, top and bottom of their abdomen before approaching genital massage.  Concentrate on relaxing and focusing each spot before moving to the next.

Pay close attention to your partner’s body as you massage; his or her body language will guide your focus.  Remember that good sensual massage is about reading and appreciating your partner’s body.  Don’t rush.

Traditionally, Tantra involves a withholding of orgasm.  The goal rather, is to transcend mere pleasure.  With practice, intense orgasmic sensations will build higher and higher. 

Modern Tantric scholars often eschew the anti-orgasmic sentiment, feeling that the release brings the event full-circle.  Whether you choose to bring your partner to orgasm, or to save that delicious tension for other purposes, the act of Tantric massage will enhance any sexual experience.
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With millennium lifestyles busier than ever before, it can be hard to find time for one another.  Couples who once spent whole weekends in bed might find their love life relegated to a nighttime quickie a couple times a week.  Added to the stresses caused by modern career life and this state can quickly erode a relationship.

It’s time to take back your relationship and there’s no better way to do so than to spend a little time touching, just touching your partner.

Erotic massage has been practiced since the dawn of civilization.  Ancient art and documents describing the erotic ministrations of couples can be traced to pre-christian Rome, Greece and Egypt.  The Kama Sutra, a South Asian compendium of sexual pleasure which retains its popularity thousands of years after its initial publication, spends many pages extolling the virtues of touch and massage.

The skin contains between 100 and 200 touch receptors per square inch.  In fact, you could think of the skin as one big erogenous zone.  Gentle, loving touch contributes to a sense of well-being and massage releases hormones that relax and uplift.  A good exchange of massage can be a boon to any relationship.

Erotic massage begins with a standard relaxation massage.  Time is taken to stimulate each of his or her touch receptors and help each muscle to unwind.  Communication is important during this phase.  The masseuse should check in frequently to ensure that his or her touch is relaxing and enjoyable and the one being massaged should be comfortable stating their preferences.

Lubrication is important in massage, and a pleasant smelling body oil adds an extra element to the mood.  Hands should glide easily across the surface of the skin, so don’t be stingy.  Finishing with a shower or bath can take care of any excess oil, if the individual being massaged is concerned about residue. 

It’s important to note that a good sexual lubricant or natural oil (such as olive or nut oils) should be used for genitals and mucous membranes.  These areas are very sensitive and many commercial oils are not appropriate for the soft tissues.  Always test for allergies before using a new product, nothing kills the mood more than an allergic rash.

Erotic massage can build and prolong your sexual pleasure, and enhance the intensity of orgasm.  It can bring couples closer together and it can change your sex life for the better.

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Hundreds of thousands of words have been written about erotic massage over the centuries.  A true student could spend years perfecting their technique (and what fun years those would be!), but there are some basic tips and tricks which will help those of you new to the practice to make the most of your early endeavors.

• Set the mood – Dim the lights, turn up the heat and put on some soft music.  Create a relaxing and sensual atmosphere to enhance relaxation and arousal.

• Use plenty of oil – Using plenty of the appropriate oils will ensure that your massage never rubs the wrong way.  Scented massage oil is wonderful for the large areas of the body, while a sexual lubricant or food oil should be the only thing used on genitals and mucous membranes.  Warm the oil in a bowl of warm water or between your palms before applying.

• Start off with a light touch and move deeper – As muscles relax, they will be more prepared to accept deeper massage.  Beginning with a light touch also helps you and your partner connect with one another.  Try things like breathing in time with your partner breaths and take your time to really connect.

• Build erotic energy slowly – Work slowly inwards towards the genitals, a light brushing here or there can build just the right kind of anticipation.  Pay close attention to areas surrounding the genitals such as the insides of your partner’s thighs or their lower abdomen.  Watch their body closely for signs of arousal such as deep or sharp intakes of breath or a tilt of their hips.  Do not overdo the teasing.  If your partner shows signs of frustration, it’s time to give a little more.

• Communicate – If you’re not sure, ask and encourage your partner to tell you what feels good.  Make frequent eye contact, particularly if this is your first experience with this partner.

A good Erotic massage takes time and practice, but the rewards are ample.  With just the right balance of touch and teasing, the orgasms achieved will be like none other.  Finish with some light kisses and a warming cover to keep your partner cozy and completely satisfied.

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